By Pauline Kornegay
What is the true definition of a friend? Do you have true friends, or are the people you associate with just associates?
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my definition of a true friend well you have to trust and be committed through what ever to really call someone your friend.no I don't have true friends the reason being is that same person can call you their friend but they could still be the person talking behind your back and getting you into situations that you don't want to be in. Example if you just meeting someone and Yarll have been talking for quite a while and apparently you here things about them from other people and the things are bad and their in a bad situation you have to make a choice weather you being their friend and giving them a heads up or going behind their back and letting them go down and get worked up over a tiny situation that could have been squashed in less than a day or so. People that I used to call friends are my associates because they have gotten into slot of trouble and I didn't want to be where they was so I got myself out of it occasionally people I hung out with wanted to be down and what not so as I started hanging out with a new crowd they started to get Jelous but think about it if your so called my friend should it matter if I hung out with a new crowd as they called it flat leaving , s of course they talked about me and they tried to make a big situation out of nothing; as. Started to get older I be aware of m surroundings so I just call people what they are associates. I don't want to be in another predicament like that it's childish and unessary.
ReplyDeleteA true friend is someone who you are in tune with. When I say in tune with I mean you share similar interest and views with this person. This person is there for you when no one else is, the relationship between you and this person or persons is deep enough that you would consider them family. You have no problem expressing your feelings or thoughts to this person. So far I have one true friend; I have been friends with this person for ten years and I consider him a brother from another mother. Now in those ten years we have argued and physically fought but that’s part of being a true friend. The reason people are friends is because they see characteristics of themselves in that person, and if you lose a friend over one or two arguments, no matter how minor or major then you weren’t really friends to begin with. An associate is different from a friend, but many people often confuse the two. An associate is someone you keep at arm’s length, meaning you don’t get to personal with associates; they only know the basics about you, such as your name or general things about you that everyone would know. You associate with these people because they may have access to something you want or in a given situation such as work or school you just have to co-exist with these people. However that does not mean that these people cannot become your friends. When you spend enough time around someone you’re bound to find something in common or something that interest you about that person. Building on these common grounds or interest is what begins a friendship. This is what it means to be a true friend.
ReplyDeleteWhat’s a true friend? A true friend to me is someone I can count on no matter what and trust, someone who can tell me the truth about myself and can give me constructive criticism. A true friend is someone who can give me advice and my best interests at heart. I wouldn’t consider anyone a true friend until we’ve actually been through something serious because throughout that situation you see how they react which tells whether or not this relationship means something to them or not. I can honestly say that I have about two true friends because when it came down to it we put childish things away and got passed it and we do forgive each other . If we’re mad at each other we talk about it and move on . There’s no need to hold a grudge because we’re getting older no need for petty little tactics to get each other mad. These two friends have my best interest at heart and tells me the truth about myself and if I need them for anything absolutely anything I can talk to them and they’ll have my back no matter what I’m going through. A true friend can see you at your lowest point but bring you back up and let you know everything will be okay. I don’t consider associates as a friends because their associates for a reason, it’s a hi and bye relationship. I don’t trust you and I have no intentions on getting to know you on a personal level. That’s what a true friend is to ME.
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I say I friend is a person that is by your side no matter what happens. When you are going through a tough situation or a tough time a friend is that person who when you turn around in any direction he or she will be there to help you. A friend also is a person that always has your back no matter what the circumstances .For an example if you are getting jumped by thirty people a good friend would not just watch they would come to help you even though they know what the outcome will be them getting beat up too. That is one example of a good friend another example is if some of your supposed friends are talking about you a real friend would go back and tell you and not just keep it a secret. That is also a quality of a good friend not keeping secrets from each other.I believe that if you have a friendship you should not hide any thing because it could damage your relationship later on.There fore be honest with each other and do not hide secrets because what does not hurt you now is bound to hurt you sooner than later. I believe in life you will have far more associates than you do friends. First of all I would say an associate is a person who you see more than ten times in your life and you have no family relation and they do not fit the qualities of a friend. Also an associate is a person who you may just have a conversation with .This is my definition of a associate.There fore it is a huge difference between an associate and a friend and most people that walk around calling everyone their friend are the people who always get hurt by their supposed friends.I believe that girls have the hardest time determining their real friends. One reason I say that is because they some times try to be friends with every body . I believe that you can not be friends with every body because every one does not meet the criteria of a true friend.
ReplyDeleteMy definition of a true friend is someone who is always there for you no matter what. A friend is always there for to comfort you. True friendship requires certain accountability factors. Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends. A true friend is someone you can count on to laugh with you, cry with you and be there for you through good times and bad. Unfortunately, people do not come with a true friend label; you need to be able to spot the characteristics of a good friend. Associate is a person who is there for only that moment it is more different from being a friend. A friend is more like a person that you know that going to be there at anytime. Your friend would come to your defense even when you may be wrong about a situation. I believe that person would tell you everything even if it may hurt, the person would never hold nothing back if you wanted to know something they would tell you regardless. They would show that they really care and have a positive attitude. A friend would influence you to do right in life and wish the best for you. They would help you even when you may give up they would be there to support you. I believe that having friends can be the best things because when you are down or need advice those are the one you run to. There teachers but there the different between associate and having a close friends. With friends you tell them everything how you feel or like things you want to gossip about. You know that they wouldn’t say noting about what you told your friend. I mean friends can change very quickly. Having a close friend they attitude towards you can change. I been through it in life and up to this day my friend and I are still best friend today. That’s what a true friend mean.
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